People get drunk
They hook up with the wrong person
And pretend to be okay
People act tough
And get mad
- Distraction in its true form (via thisisnotmyfairytaleendingg)
People will do anything to distract their heart.
They will do anything to distract it from missing someone.
my dad introduced his girlfriend to my tias and me. We smiled and said hi, and as soon as my dad and her walked away my tia turned to me. She said “you know, as long as she’s nice to me ill be nice back but.. i miss your mom. a lot miranda.” she started crying and she made me cry too, i hugged her…
I don’t know you. You don’t know me. We’re just pages on tumblr and occasionaly I like or reblog your stuff. I know I’m nobody to you and you shouldn’t put too much stock in to what strangers say but I just wanted to tell you that your family didn’t lose. Your family fell to forces that it couldn’t possibly control or avoid. This society we live in seems to be doing all it can to collapse marriages and destroy families. Nothing was or is your fault. I know my pain of losing my parents can’t compare to yours willingly divorcing but in my eyes the loss can be comparable. There too I felt a deep sadness but mostly I felt regret for not doing all I could when they were alive to let them know how much I cared. My regret is deeply engrained into all I am now. Don’t let that happen to you. Love them and tell them you do often while they’re still here. After my father passed my mother started seeing someone else about a year later. I wasn’t happy about it but I eventually realized I couldn’t control it and I had to let things go for my own sanity’s sake. Eventually I got a little sister from this new relationship I love her with all of my heart. I realized later that She wouldn’t be possible without my father passing away. Now that my mother is gone I worry that I didn’t do enough to let her know I didn’t have any hard feelings about her quick transition to another relationship. Sorry for rambling but What you wrote touched me and I recognized a bit of your pain from mine. Please be well.
Thanks so much for that. i can’t relate to the feeling of losing a parent, or both parents, but i can’t imagine what you have gone through and the hurt you felt. its tough to not take the time we have on this earth for granite, especially when it comes to letting our loved ones know how much we truly do appreciate them. i wish you well also, and happy holidays :)
my dad introduced his girlfriend to my tias and me. We smiled and said hi, and as soon as my dad and her walked away my tia turned to me. She said “you know, as long as she’s nice to me ill be nice back but.. i miss your mom. a lot miranda.” she started crying and she made me cry too, i hugged her and didn’t want to let go. Then she said “Im still waiting for her to wake up one day and snap the hell out of it. am i stupid for thinking that?” i told her she wasn’t because i wish for the same thing.
i don’t think ill ever get used to seeing my parents date other people. It hurts me. i hate my moms boyfriend and my dads girlfriend so much and i barely know them. how do you approve of someone for your parents to date? no woman for my father will ever compare to my mom and no man my mom dates will ever meet my expectations when i compare him to my father. This divorce broke me into pieces. I’m always going to be angry, I’m always going to hurt, I’m always going to be disappointed knowing that my family wasn’t strong enough to make it. we lost.
although my brother doesn’t talk about it much i know he hurts still. it affected everyone around me. maybe me just a little more.